One of my new favorite family sites is Simple Marriage: Create a Better Marriage by Keeping Things Simple. There are a variety of writing contributors, both men and women.
This article by Corey got me thinking and encouraged this post. What Do You Fear Most in Your Marriage?
Whoa, right? That is one loaded question.
My biggest fear, hands down, would be monotony. Being that couple that sits in their weekly date night restaurant, staring at everything and everyone except each other… not having anything to say to the other person.
Realizing after the kids are grown up and gone, you both have grown into people that do things beside each other but not with each other. You have one life, but separate lives. Am I making sense?
Well, I have voiced this fear to my hubby more than I probably should. And mainly out of hysterics, not love.
Corey at a Simple Marriage suggests that we should look this fear straight in the face and try to overcome it. Now. Not later. But now.
That got me thinking about ways I can avoid monotony in my marriage now. And here’s what I came up with.
- Date nights… spontaneous & fun date nights!
- Take 15 minutes everyday to recap the day & focus on really talking, not doing anything else.
- A consistent & regular intimate relationship… you know what I mean.
- Write down things my hubby says or does throughout the day that shows he loves me.
- Don’t go to bed angry! Try to talk through & resolve arguments.
- Exercise together.
- Do a study or read a book together & discuss.
- Take a class together… cooking, woodwork, exercise class, etc.
- Take pictures together and record your memories.
The list could go on and on. But I think the main way to avoid monotony in your marriage is to focus on the other person and focus on growing together as one, not two separate individuals. When you do this, putting your marriage and husband first, you are making a huge investment in creating a lasting relationship!Photo Credit