When I mentioned on Facebook that I’ve been knocked down these past couple months by lots of nausea, more vomiting than I’m used to, and extreme fatigue, I had a mom ask me to share how I deal with all of that and three kids under age four. And well, I just had to laugh. Because most days I really don’t feel like I am dealing with it. I feel like I am just barely surviving, enough to feed my kids and make sure they don’t kill each other.
We want a big family. We are committed to completely trusting God with how our family grows. But I have to be honest. This pregnancy has been the hardest. And I’m only at 10 weeks! Probably has something to do with already having a 3.5, 2.5 and 1 year old!
But I can say, that by the grace of God, I am surviving. And enjoying my children. And still loving my children. And serving my husband. By the grace of God. And for me, that’s enough.
As for some tangible tips, here’s how I deal with the morning sickness with lots of littles running around…
Forgo Your Routine
For me, our simple routine has gone straight out the window the day my morning sickness hit at 4 weeks. Because my morning sickness isn’t just during the morning. It’s all. day. long. We are talking 24/7 nausea and fatigue. This time, however, there was lots of throwing up the first month. So our new routine consisted of doing whatever Mommy could at the time. Which usually meant laying on the couch, the girls’ beds, our bed, the playroom floor, while the girls played around me. We read a lot of books, colored, watched movies or educational cartoons, played on the iPad, did puzzles, etc. Or I secured the baby in the jumper while I ran to the bathroom. Now, as for cleaning…
I mean it. Our tile floors have been vacuumed maybe every other week. Definitely haven’t been mopped in over a month. There are piles of clean laundry in every room, waiting to be put away. The bathroom sinks and toilets get a quick wiping down once a week. Let’s not talk about the shower and tub, though. They will be bleached once I spy mold growing. May sound disgusting, but the only thing I have been able to do is hang up Hubby’s work clothes and do the dishes. And do about a load of laundry a day. Now, when I do get bouts of energy…
Capitalize on Your Good Days
I had about a good week and a half around 8 weeks where I was feeling really amazing. I took advantage of that time and caught up on the laundry. Put the laundry away. Really cleaned the floors and bathrooms. Tidied up the bedrooms and playroom. It. was. awesome! However, those good days are gone and I am back to feeling ucky, probably till about 12 weeks. But I am sure glad I really took advantage of those days I was feeling great!
Try to Keep Moving
I know this seems to contradict my “do only what you can” mentality, but I have found that I don’t really notice my nausea or fatigue when I am busy doing things with the girls, trying to clean up the house, out grocery shopping or even working out. It’s hard to motivate yourself, but when I get started moving and doing something, I honestly don’t notice how bad I feel. I don’t feel 100% but I don’t feel as terrible as I do when I sit or lay down.
Go At Your Own Pace
This ties into all my tips above. When I am throwing up, not much gets done. When I am having a decent day, I try to get started doing something. But I still go at a slow pace. If I move too quickly or try to get too much done, I pay for it dearly by 3 pm. And I’ve still got four hours till bedtime! Don’t try any big projects either. Because it ain’t gonna happen. Hubby really wants me to start potty training Cambria, but I honestly don’t have the energy in me to take on this task! Being realistic with what you can and can’t do is the best thing you can do for yourself and for your family.
These are just a few things I am learning this pregnancy. However, I know that my morning sickness is probably what most would called moderate or even mild at times. For those that struggle with severe throwing up all day long for most of their pregnancy, my heart goes out to you. There is one blogging momma of 6 that deals with terrible morning sickness when pregnant, so you may be able to reach out to her to see how she does it.
Also, some people are more fortunate than others to have a good support system around them during their pregnancies. Asking for help is something that could greatly help you deal with your symptoms in early pregnancy!
How do YOU deal with morning sickness and still be a mom/wife?