Marriage Must Read: The Excellent Wife

Our church offered a small group study on this book, The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective.  Now, I know in our society the view of a woman’s role in a marriage has changed dramatically in the last 50 years.  However, the divorce rate, especially among Christians, has also increased immensely.  And honestly, it breaks my heart.

I know marriage is hard.  Hubby and I just celebrated four years of marriage and we already have 3 kids (under age three!).  So, I know how hard it can be day in and day out.  I am very aware of all the struggles and pressures and annoyances.

That’s why I began to stock up on marriage books, gain advice from other women, and seek out counsel in my church.  I was a bit hesitant to sign up for The Excellent Wife study, as I knew being an excellent wife was basically an impossibility for me.

But then I read that the book gave practical and biblical ways to handle issues in a marriage and ways to love your husband unconditionally.  I needed those practical and biblical ways, because I had no clue how to do it on my own!

To say the least, The Excellent Wife was life changing for me.  No, I would not consider myself an excellent wife or anything close to it.  However, I now know how to deal with everyday issues in my marriage that before got my blood boiling.  I can communicate like an adult with my hubby when I feel upset about something and also take a step back and try to see why he is acting a certain way.  That is HUGE for me!

Our study leader is actually the author of The Excellent Wife Day by Day, a daily devotional based on the principles and truths of The Excellent Wife.  She gave us a copy of her book at the end of the study.  I have found it to be an incredible resource on a daily basis.

Please remember that I do not claim to know it all.  And that what works for me may not work for you.  My intent for A Purpose Driven Home is share as many resources as I can to make managing your home and family (especially your marriage!) easier for you.  :)

Linking to Works For Me Wednesdays and Women Living Well Wednesdays

*If you do read The Excellent Wife and The Excellent Wife Day by Day I would love to hear your comments and reactions.  You can comment here or email me at
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10 Responses to Marriage Must Read: The Excellent Wife

  1. Totally agree! LOVE this book on marriage for the wife. One of my favorites!

    • Carolyn says:

      I was on your website for just a little today, but gosh, I am loving it! About to head back over and read more. I love the name… Joyful Mothering. That is my desire, but not always the case in day to day reality. Thanks so much for stopping by!

  2. Mrs. Erven says:

    Thanks for the post! I’m adding this to my Amazon Wish List today. :) (If you haven’t already read it, I’d like to suggest “Feminine Appeal.”) It hugely affected the way I saw Biblical Womanhood, if I even saw it beforehand. :)

    • Carolyn says:

      I have not read Feminine Appeal but I will definitely look into it! Thanks so much!! And I’d love to hear what you think of The Excellent Wife when you get to it. :)

  3. Liz says:

    Thank you for the post. Being a Godly wife is very challenging, but we can all do it!!!

  4. Heather says:

    I’m here from Women Living Well Wednesdays… I have wanted to read this book, but never have. I had heard mixed things about it, but I like your review – thank you.

    • Carolyn says:

      Heather, it is definitely a complete 180 on how our society views the role of a wife and even how some churches do. But what was very encouraging was that everything was completely biblical. She backed up everything she said with Scripture. AND provided practical ways to implement what the Bible says, which was the best part in my opinion. Because I will read some really great books but then wonder “What does that look like?” or “How can I do that starting today?”. I would love to know what you think when you get into it!! Thanks so much for stopping by! :)

  5. Kimberly says:

    Carolyn, you are so wise to be proactive! I think it is a great idea to “interview” older couples in the church about marriage… Marriage is hard work! What a legacy you are leaving!

    • Carolyn says:

      Aw, Kimberly… you are too sweet! I just know firsthand how hard marriages are and as well as seeing the destruction they cause when they fall apart. Before I got married, I was determined to do all I could to have a beautiful, real, and lasting marriage. And believe me, I need all the advice I can get! :)

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